Self love is important, when you take time to recharge your spirit, it allows you to serve others. It’s quite clear that most of us, millennials, suck at self-love. When it comes to developing and maintaining a positive self-image of ourselves, we’re consistently encouraged to follow certain negative and cliche habits just because everyone else is doing.
We are either encouraging each other to just accept who we are even when it’s realistically not enough or distracting ourselves from actually growing healthy self-esteem by following extremely toxic habits on a daily basis.
Mastering self-love takes time, dedication, and the right amount of constructive self-criticism to get it right. But contrary to what most people think, you don’t need new ideas and routines to love yourself more, even though that would certainly help, you can get there by subtracting the distractions and negative habits.
Stop Chasing Things
A lot of people have things as goals they need to buy to build something for themselves. They need to save up money every month to cover for something. Consequently, they’re always stuck in a restricted pattern of being forever tied to stuff for quite some time in their lives. You have to understand that the car you’re saving up for is not going to make you 1% happier. On the contary, it will only be more convenient, and you will be excited for a few days but that’s about it.
The new house you want is definitely not going to be something you’ll look back on, however, who’s in that house will always be more important. The slick phone. The perfect heels. The cool watch. Things, things, things.
Following the trend behind consumerism has made people a lot of people subconsciously hide behind “things” for validation. They need to have things to be accepted more by their peers, and then find self-love within that acceptance.
Also, these people’s conversations revolve around things so much that they’re constantly looking at what other people own to compare and see where they rank in the no-substance-hierarchy.
Don’t fall into that toxic trap, especially when you start making a lot of money. Once your mindset becomes about buying something to prove anything, you immediately subtract from your self-love. Loving yourself becomes dependent on acquisitions and the existence of objects. Buy for convenience and never for happiness.
The wonderful thing about self-love is that if it’s real, it’s hard for someone to take it away from you. In fact, if you get stripped away from everything you own, you’ll still love yourself just the same. Self-love is the most powerful thing you can have when it’s completely independent of external validation and acquiring things.
Let Go Of Toxic People
There’s a saying you might have heard before, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” That saying sums up human connections in a nutshell. Who you choose to spend time with is a good sign of where your life is heading.
Want to know how much you love yourself? Just look at your circle of loved ones. Do you have people who push you forward and genuinely want the best for you? Or do you have people who want something from you and try to put you down for their satisfaction.
Life ends sooner than we expect. Time really does run out quickly. The last thing you need at this point is to waste the valuable and little time you have on this earth on someone who keeps getting in the way of your ideal life and self. Good friends don’t come by every day, especially as you get older. Compatible potential partners don’t show up all the time. You must be mindful of who you let in and when to kick people out.
The time you waste with a toxic envious friend who does not want the best for you is also the time you waste for opportunities in finding actual friends who would add quality and support to your life.
The time you waste trying to fix a toxic partner, who drains you and keeps finding faults in how you want to live and what makes you happy, equals the same amount of time you waste in meeting that partner who will genuinely want to support you following your dreams, even if they don’t understand your dreams.
It’s amazing how people can be so afraid to be alone that they will settle for those who will hurt them, just because of the familiarity. That’s what lack of self-love can do to you.
Love Yourself First
In most cases than not, you are guilty of giving toxic friends and partners a pass sometimes just because they’re nice. Or maybe because they weren’t like that before, and we keep hoping that they will change for the best.
Some of us have spent too much time with certain negative people, that we no longer imagine what life without them would be like. Does giving them a pass change things to the better for you? Or does it always hold you back?
It might not seem like it when you’re in the situation. It’s not your responsibility to fix people and make them see how great life can be.
You cannot change people, only they can change themselves, and that’s when they really want to.
Sometimes we get caught up saving them then get damaged in the process. So drop that dead weight, because it’s dead. You deserve more than to be reserved for anyone else’s problems.
Your time, energy, and health are the most valuable things in the world. Treat them as such, and the world will respect your demands and help you love yourself a bit more.
Akothee Celebrates Mzungu Baby Daddy’s Birthday.
Singer Akothee who is a mother of 5 has celebrated her French baby daddy Dominic’s birthday in a lengthy message. Mr Dominic Decherf is the father to Akothee’s last born, Papa Oyoo.
In a lengthy message on her instagram post, Akothee narrates how Mr Dominic proposed to her on this day 11 years ago; which also happened to be his birthday.
Sharing cute throwback photos from their engagement day, Akothee revealed that on the same day Dominic bought her a new home worth Ksh 45 M in Mombasa.
Akothee met Dominic alias Papa Oyoo when she was a taxi driver in Shanzu and she was then living in a rented home.
Akothee went on by highlighting some of the things she has achieved since she met him. Madam Boss has also went on to become a big brand influencer in Kenya.
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It was on a day like this 17. 9 2009 on your birthday ,that you proposed me and bought me a house behind the then nakumat @ 45M. The Muzungu who was selling the house to us ,thought I was naive and he could steal from us ? You loved the home so much that you dint want to let go , the Muzungu still wanted to keep his bedroom upstairs for his holidays 😂😂😂I had never owned a property before ,but trust me , it dint make sense to me and I could not imagine sharing a compound with that man🙆,I had known him for over 3 year's, we used to come to that house for dinner with friends during our hustle mood 😂😂😂😂, and he used to play very rich Swiss guy , Don't ask me what I was doing there ,😂😂😂. You thought the kids & me would be happy in that home 🙏 you loved the pool and the chef Mr shinando , you wanted to see your queen happy . I had to protect you and our property . Now today I want to tell you that Since I met you ,I have known that true love and Angels still exist ❣️. Come and see what the girl you met as a taxi driver living in shanzu at Toles own compound rented house ,has become 💪 1. A mega star 2. An entertainer 3. An entrepreneur 👉@akotheesafaris 4. The number one leading & highly paid brand Ambassador/ influencer in Kenya @akno.tela 5 . An investor @akothenproperties 6. The original philanthropist @akotheefoundation On top of it 7 . THE AKOTHEE FAN BASE ( the only celeb with no haters , just loyal fans and admires ) 💪 8. An eminent MEMBER of ELREB . LOVED BY MANY & RESPECTED BY ALL 👉FROM GRASS TO GRACE 👉FROM SHAME TO FAME 👉FROM GRACE TO GRACE 🙏The only man who would like to see me grow . Mr Dominic decherf Wuon Oyoo @papaoyoo When counting my blessings ,I count you 7 times . You are my HERO ,MY ORIGINE , THANK YOU FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR ME AND THE KIDS.not forgetting the many trips you made with me to childrens court🙏 fighting over a child that is not yours 🤦DOMINIC WHO ARE YOU AGAIN? Help me wish Papa OYOO HAPPY BIRTHDAY And I wouod like to award one of my fans sharing birthday with Papa Oyoo Drop your birthday month and date and tag @rarainthekitchen
Cardi B Files For Divorce From Rapper Offset
After their 3 years of marriage, Cardi B has filed for divorce from her husband and fellow hip-hop star Offset, according to court records.
The couple, who married secretly in September 2017 and have a two-year old daughter named Kulture.
Court records obtained shows that Cardi B is seeking custody of their daughter Kulture and child support from Offset. Cardi B filed for divorce on Tuesday in Georgia, where the couple have been living and also the home state of Kiari Cephus majorly known as Offset.
The couple had already been through a well-publicized rough patch that resulted in her announcing their break-up almost two years ago where Cardi B talked of it in an Instagram video in December 2018. “We got a lot of love for each other but things just haven’t been working out between us for a long time. It’s just like, I guess we just grew out of love, but we’re not together anymore,” she said in the Instagram video.
Offset then asked for forgiveness on-stage in front of a crowd at her Rolling Loud concert, though it was not well received by Cardi B’s fans.
Cardi B celebrated their 2nd wedding anniversary with a post on Intagram page, alongside a picture of the two of them together with the caption, “We keep learning and growing. That’s what marriage about.”
Cardi B, is known for hits include WAP, Bodak Yellow and I Like It. Offset on the other hand is a member of the Migos Band.
No laughing matter: Kenya’s premiere quarantine comedy club to take over your screens
254 QCC LLC. is set to launch the much-awaited online comedy performance show in the next two weeks. Dubbed 254 Quarantine Comedy Club (254 QCC) focusing on providing an avenue for artists and creatives to earn a living through digital comedy and entertainment. Artists and creatives signed onto the platform provide their services by entertaining hundreds of thousands of Kenyans who tune in live online to the weekly 254 Quarantine Comedy Club show.
“This is a platform designed to use art to better the community by giving the artists themselves an audience to perfect their skills as well as a source of income,” said Dorothy Ogega the Founder of 254 Quarantine Comedy Club.
254 Quarantine Comedy Club seeks to make a serious statement in the Kenya showbiz industry by redefining how the entertainment business is run. The creatives once signed onto the show, whose only requirement is to have talent and prepare a set, are remunerated no more than two hours after their performance. Unlike the traditional perform-and-wait, the 254 Quarantine Comedy Club is pegged on the belief that artists and creatives are among those most affected by the lack of shows and live performances.
There have been several editions of 254 QCC including the Kericho Edition which attracted popular MCs Kiptabut & Joyrider, Comedians Tipsy, Bartinga, Galgalo and Inspekta Nikko among many others. The show, which was streamed live was supported by the Kericho County Governor, His Excellency Paul Chepkwony.
Among the most notable names to have performed on 254 Quarantine Comedy Club include comedians Akuku Danger, Mulamwah, Smart Joker, Rib Crackers, JB Masanduku, and Comediennes Adhis Jojo and Nasra, with 2 special appearance from Afro-fusion singer and Peace Ambassador Iddi Achieng (HSC.)
The show is hosted by MC Sleepy David, having also attracted famed guest host Captain Otoyo.
254 Quarantine Comedy Club has appealed to a set of diverse performers including musicians and deejays, among them Kriss Darling. The show is also currently in talks with singer-songwriter Eric Wainaina for a collaboration.
“We want to churn out comedy that is no joke, to provide a platform for creatives to market their talents and get paid. You work, you get paid, that is our mantra,” said Daphne Kemunto, an Associate and Project Lead on 254 QCC.
254 Quarantine Comedy Club promises to be more than just a comedy platform. Already there are works in the pipeline where the creatives signed on to 254 QCC are collaborating with local communities to promote them.
Dorothy Ogega adds, “We want to use our art to better the community by launching projects that benefit them. The first project we are launching is a resource water tank in one of the largest informal settlements in Kenya as we identify areas of needs and address them.”
254 Quarantine Comedy Club is managed by Kenya’s top creative minds with industry experience spanning decades in media, film and television. The show is run by Henry Wesonga and Evans Obare under the stewardship of the long-serving Creative Director Victor Ber.
The 254 Quarantine Comedy Club has so far held 4 main shows with 3 other targeted closed audience shows.
“254 Quarantine Comedy Club is made for creatives, with creatives and enjoyed by everyone. It’s not just entertainment, it’s an experience. We are calling out to partners who would like to join us and support our creatives, let’s grow this industry together,” said Dorothy Ogega.
The 254 Quarantine Comedy Club is currently available for live streaming on its social media pages @254qcc on Instagram and FB Live on 254 Quarantine Comedy Club from 10PM Kenya Time, 3PM US, 8PM UK, 9PM Europe and 11PM UAE.
ABOUT DOROTHY OGEGA
Dorothy Ogega is the Founder of 254 Quarantine Comedy Club LLC. A geriatic nurse by training, and calling, she migrated to the USA in 1997 where she specialises in Diabetes Management. She also sits on the board of TeleAfya LLC as a Co-founder.
As a free platform, 254 Quarantine Comedy Club relies on commissions to support its operations. 254 QCC is currently in partnership with TeleAfya LLC., Hillpark Hotel and TwaTwa Express.
You can reach her on: Dorothy Ogega <firstname.lastname@example.org>
TOP TEN NATURAL HAIR INFLUENCERS YOU NEED TO BE FOLLOWING!
The Natural Hair Community is steadily growing around the world. Carrying the load of this movement are the natural hair influencers who keep us informed about the best products, tips and tricks for styling and managing our natural hair.
As te tresses pundits showcase their natural hair journeys, they help make ours a lot less hard and a lot more manageable. For this reason, if you are looking for products to work for your hair or some doable hairstyles, here are 10 natural hair influencers from Kenya that certainly you need to follow.
1. Michelle Anyango (@itsangango)
Michelle creatively makes informative videos on her Instagram and Youtube Channel. Her Instagram feed is pure bliss. You should definitely follow her.
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Hi it's me your fave 😂😂😂 *TAG A FRIEND* Back with another matuta video . . Prior to doing the style my hair was straightened Products used wrap set mousse from @orshaircare from @supercosmetics.ke Kshs 650 Kinks softening Butter from @bantunaturalske Kshs 1000 Song natural woman by @rojaylew Video on my YouTube,link in bio #type4hair #4chair #braidout #matutas #fro #naturalista #teamnatural #kenyankinks #kinkycurly #naturalhaircommunity #myafricanhair #naturalhairdaily #kinkystrands #blackhairomg #mynaturalhairisdope #unconditionedroots #melanin #darksin
2. Wangeci Ngare (@__wangeci___ngare)
Wangeci is a hair enthusiast and a professional make up artist as (@the_glam_kitchen.ke). if you need to know the perfect hair products for your 4C hair, you should definitely follow her. Her mane is goals and she showcases how she takes care of it on her Instagram.
3. Sheila Ndinda (@sheilandinda)
Sheila showcases simple hair tutorials and products reviews on her Youtube Channel. She also has a salon (@spritzhairstudio) which is your one-stop hair salon for all things natural hairs. Sheila is also known for her tapered cuts which are absolutely adorable.
4. Tabitha Tongoi (@cravingyellow)
Tabitha Tongoi popularly known as Craving Yellow is a top natural hair blogger. She shares healthy hair regimen tips on her Instagram and her youtube channel.
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❤️☀️Celebrate wherever you are in life. It's either a product of your growth or a space that will help you grow. Keep changing. Keep growing. Keep asking. Keep moving. Keep creating. Keep feeling. Keep loving. Keep dreaming. #cravingyellow #loveandsunshine #createalifeyoulove (Earrings from @afrofusion_earrings)
5. Margie Muga (@justmargie_)
Wanna know how to properly take care of coloured natural hair, Margie is your to-go-to girl, periodt! Above all, Margie has vast knowledge when it comes to the best natural hair products.
6. Joan Miano (@justnimu)
JustNimu is most definitely the queen of protective styling. She makes the videos on her Instagram and youtube channel. On the whole, Nimu is experimental so you will have tons of fun watching her videos.
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Just passing by to say hello, see how you're doing and showing off my hair again. 😂😂😂⠀ Achieve this bomb passion twists using water wave braids from @naturalhairkenya⠀ ⠀ Full tutorial is up on my channel.⠀ https://buff.ly/2JxTkpN⠀ ⠀ #JustNimu #NaturalHair #HealthyHairJourney #passiontwists #protectivestyles
7. Sharon Malonza (@mykenyanpuff)
Where my lazy natural sisters at? Sharon typically creates the easiest and quickest tutorials. Most noteworthy, her hair is super adorable.
8. Makanye (@hairbymakanye)
Makanye is a two times award-winning hairstylist. She creates a lot of videos on her Instagram and youtube showcasing a variety of options for protective styles
9. Carol Tichie (@caroltichie)
If you want to learn how to crochet like a pro, I suggest you follow carol on her Instagram and subscribe to her youtube channel. She makes super simple videos that are easy to follow. With the quarantine situation, we are in, you definitely need to learn some crocheting skills.
10. Wanza (@itswanza)
As her Instagram bio reads, her hair is her canvas. She has cute and simple styles across her Instagram feed. Oh, did I mention, her wash and go style will leave you drooling over hair.
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Before it shrunk…😊 My hair takes the longest to dry and that doesn't hold me from leaving the house. I just find the right seat in the matatu 😂😂 next to a window. What do you do when your hair doesn't dry in time? . . . #teamnatural #natural #hair #curlyhair #protectivestyles #curls #healthyhair #naturalista #naturalhairdaily #afro #beauty #naturalhaircommunity #curlsaunaturel #locs #love #kinkyhair #myhaircrush #fashion #blackgirlsrock #dreads #kinkycurly #naturalhairjourney #naturalbeauty #naturalhairdoescare #protectivestyle #naturallyshesdope #silkpress #selfie #beautiful #melanin
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Top 10 Tips On How To Work From Home Effectively
Working from home is great but it can be such a task for people who are used to working from the office. We have compiled a list of 10 things that you can practise that will make working from home more fun and effective.
STARTING YOUR DAY.
Get a good night sleep. Everyone requires quality sleep for perfect health and well-being. World Health Organisation recommends 8 hours for adults as a good writemyessay baseline. Wake up early and take a bath. Working from home does not mean you have to break the cycle of hygiene. Make yourself some breakfast and set the day going.
I always say this, if you wouldn’t go to work in it, how can you expect to work in it. You can’t work while in clothes that remind your brain that you are in sleep mode. By getting dressed, I don’t mean throwing on a full suit. A pair of jeans and a t-shirt or any top that you feel is appropriate to work in. This kicks your brain into gear and makes you feel like you are ready to hit the day.
CREATE YOUR WORKSPACE
Creating a designated corner/spot for work or study is very important. If possible, work from a table and a comfortable chair that offers you good support. Somewhere close enough electrical outlets, adequate lighting and ample space to spread your thoughts and feelings. Even if you are working with limited space, a little corner is all you need to mentally zone your space into a work zone.
WRITE A TO-DO LIST.
Working without a to-do list can be challenging. You will more often than not find yourself forgetting to do some tasks that you are supposed to do. Writing down a to-do list will have and ticking down every task that you’ve accomplished will ensure that all your tasks/work is completed.
SET UP WORKING HOURS
Set time for each and everything that you are supposed to do. This will help you not get extremely worn to. Working on one thing for long hours can make you feel worn out. Switching up your tasks now and then will help you work for longer without feeling unmotivated.
STICK TO REGULAR MEAL TIMES
This will help you not overeat or skip meals. Be mindful when snacking. Do not overindulge but also do not overstrain yourself. Snack in moderation.
REMOVE YOUR DISTRACTIONS
When we’re working from home, it’s not a surprise it’s almost impossible not to get distracted. Some of the most common distractions are social media, clutter, unwashed dishes etc. We can never remove 100% of our work from home distractions. After all, we are working from home, however, we can reduce that list significantly. If social media is your problem, put your phone on silent mode. If its household mess and chores schedule in time to clear your space.
TAKE PRODUCTIVE BREAKS
You do it at work, although you pretend you don’t. Taking breaks refreshes the mind, and helps you become more creative.
Set a rough schedule for yourself and stick notifications on your phone to remind you. You can also write it in your to-do list to take breaks at certain times of the day.
Above all, even if you’re not hungry or would rather keep working, these breaks act as a switch in your mind to take a break. Your brain simply can not keep working for hours straight, give it a rest and give your body some fuel.
CONNECT WITH OTHERS
Whatever your situation in, connecting with other people is necessary for your wellbeing. If you’re unable to meet in person,( due to the CORONA Pandemic) keeping contact via phone call, Skype or Zoom is still a great way to keep relationships going and share and keep each other motivated.
Schedule in these calls while you’re not in ‘work-mode’, that way, if you’re left distracted you can simply relax after the call.
ENDING YOUR DAY
Making sure that you’re able to stop work at a certain point and have leisure time is super important. Take that time at the end of the day to unwind with some Netflix. You can also catch up with your favourite YouTuber while sipping on some wine. Exercising can also be a good option to end your day.
I love to curl up on my couch with some food and watch some Netflix. I am currently enjoying “Never Have I Ever” you should check it out.